When I first started my paternity leave, I had no idea how profoundly it would change me. These past six months have been less about time off and more about a complete reimagining of my life, priorities, and sense of self.
Redefining Time and Purpose
Becoming a dad to Miles has been like hitting a reset button. Suddenly, time isn’t just about productivity—it’s about presence. I’ve learned that optimization isn’t just about work efficiency, but about creating meaningful moments with my family.
During these months, I’ve tackled a surprising number of projects:
- Home improvements (new garage door, hardwood floors, rebuilt railing)
- Technology updates (rebuilt computers, created a home media library)
- Appliance upgrades (new fridge, laundry upgrades)
- Extensive house maintenance and deep cleaning
But these weren’t just tasks. They were acts of preparation, love, and creating a foundation for our growing family.
Personal Transformation
The most significant changes weren’t physical—they were internal. My ambition has shifted from personal success to family success. My definition of achievement now revolves around providing security, comfort, and opportunities for Miles.
My social anxiety has transformed. My patience has grown. The fear of missing out has paradoxically increased, but so has my understanding of what truly matters.
A Love Letter to the Journey
This period has been a gift—a rare opportunity to pause, reflect, and recalibrate. I want to remember these moments, not just as memories, but as a compass for future me. When work pressure mounts or balance feels elusive, I’ll return to this reflection.
To future Miles, and to myself: this is a testament to love, growth, and the beautiful complexity of becoming a father.